New Release and Perspectives
New Release!!
I’m delighted to announce my latest novel LOVE AND BLOOD was released Sep 18 (ebook and print). This paranormal romance is chock full of murder, chaos, surprises, and twists plus laced with some things sassy, some humorous, and some downright sexy. This is the continuation of the Evening Bower series begun with prequel, The Gypsy Thorn, then officially open in Time and Blood. Join Rhea and Amor-el along with their son, Destin, and friends, as they must renew their battle against deadly enemies intent on the destruction of the phoenix, of a prophecy, and any hope for the future.
Cover by Cover Me Darling LLC
The reviews are looking good, so please get yours before the price goes up. You won’t be disappointed, I promise! This is one paranormal romance that will leave you wanting more.
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Lessons in Perspective
You know the expression that says (in paraphrase), your view of the world depends on what side of the fence you stand? Well I learned this lesson well over the last few weeks.
I’ve been away because my body has been ill. I had surgery on Sept 10 to correct an ongoing ailament that previously made me very lethargic and often unable to do certain tasks. I won’t go into great detail about the fix but here’s what you need to know — I am horribly afraid of hospitals, doctors and dentists. Now I had to deal with an emergent situation in a hospital, several doctors and all the panic over fears I dreaded. My blood pressure soared, my fears rose to the surface, and I was a mess all the way around.
Now, I do not have any terminal disease nor any grave or serious illness. What was wrong with me was an often common thing though my ailament was more complicated than expected. My stay in the hospital was brief (2 and a half days) and when released, I would have run to the car to get away if I could have!
Now to perspective. I have friends who have survived a plethora of hospital visits, endured numerous surgeries, radiation treatments, chemotherapy and suffered terribly. I felt foolish with my baby fears when I thought of them and I chastised myself for my benign fears. But my perspective of the incident remained tainted with my fear and my lingering anxiety. I could not see the bigger picture when I was stuck in the middle of my singular problem.
But fears they were and I could not shake them. Instead I tried to keep them “in perspective” but began to realize that my fears were no less valid or real, no matter how small they compared to others. I needed to allow myself to have the fear and not feel ashamed of it simply because my situation didn’t measure up to the horrible enduring of others. Perspective comes when you see the field before you and you deal with what you have yet you must allow there are greater fields beyond yours and they aren’t all solid ground. That does not diminish your personal field but it helps you to regain solid footing.
As a writer, I paid attention to my anxiety, my fears, my depression, my loneliness, and stopped beating myself up and apologizing for my lack of bravery or stiff upper lip. Those who love and know me, shared compassion (even when they didn’t understand my fear) and helped me to cope. Their warmth sustained me and eased my trepidations.
Perspective is not having to understand, but must acknowledge the reality without judgement. The mountains are real and you cannot change them. But you learn to deal with them and live with them. That was me and that represented those who helped me through my weeks of healing.
Perspective is understanding that what I felt as a patient isn’t what the nurses feel or what the doctor understands. My pain (or in my case, my lack of pain!), is true to me. Those in my shoes may not see or feel about the situation the same. We must not say things to others like “you should, or you ought to” because that is assuming that you know more than other person about the situation. That is a directive that is without understanding or allowance.
I’m on the mend now and still coming to terms with me. I hope when you write your characters you go deeper into their emotions, find the things that scare them, that worry them, that define and confine them, things that repress them and paralyze them. Characters are the way they are from experience and not everything is always explainable. Those foibles are also not always weaknesses. They are learning experiences for your characters just as mine was for me. The best fiction is rooted in reality. What you see isn’t always what is real or the whole picture. Never short-change the other person because your perspective is limited. And so is your character’s.
Perspective gives me information, forgiveness, experience and improvement. I am a better person with it, and my writing will improve because of it. What you see at first, isn’t always the only (if ever), the truth. Or, it may only be a partial truth.
It may decide on your vantage point, or, on which side of the fence you stand.
I hope you can examine the larger moments in your lie and find the deep roots to give your life and your writing greater perspectives too.
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I remain Yours Between the Lines,
Sherry
Terri A. Wilson says:
Glad you feel better and it went well.
SherryR says:
Thank you. :)
Julie Stafford says:
So glad you are feeling better. That was a beautiful explanation of what many forget. I always so don’t judge me or others until you have walked a mile in my or their shoes. Take care.
SherryR says:
The mile in the shoes is a good beginning, I agree. This was a much deeper dive into emotions and causality. I’ve long walked the other shoe mile but finding the long view was never like this.
Thanks for stopping by, Julie!